Losing Weight Changes the Game!
It’s Thursday night and you’re at your favorite Mexican restaurant with your friends. Every Thursday night after the kids play soccer, everyone gathers at the Mexican restaurant for margaritas, chips with guacamole and a big burrito! This is part of the social scene that plays out in your life every week.
This scene and others just like it are now causing weight and health problems. You just went to your doctor and they really got on your case for your weight gain and high cholesterol. Time to get serious and go on a diet.
You start your program and you are starting to feel good. Then Thursday night comes and it’s time to go to the Mexican restaurant with your friends. How in the world are you going to handle this?
When you order water with a slice of lime and a fajita (hold the wrap, rice, cheese and sour cream) your friends look at you like you’ve lost your mind. What the heck is wrong with you???? Don’t you realize we are all in this eating/drinking thing together? “What are doing???? Come on…one margarita isn’t going to completely de-rail you”!
This is part of that “LIFE getting in the way of your diet” thing.
You want to join in the fun. You really, really do. But you are also committed to losing the weight. What do you do? Do you go to the Mexican restaurant anyway and stay on your program? Or do you allow your thoughts to tell you it’s okay to go and just have one drink and a few chips.
It’s helpful to understand when you stick to your program around your friends in social situations, you are changing the game. The game is…we all eat and drink together. We know it’s not healthy. But it’s our fun and we’re in the game together.
By ordering healthy food and a non-alcoholic drink, you are changing the game. Now the rest of your friends believe they have to bring you back to their side. You must join in or they will feel guilty for not also eating healthy. It is part of the game to convince you of the error of your ways.
It’s very much like kids on the playground. When one doesn’t go along with the pack, they are ridiculed. It’s not fun to take a stand and be different. It makes people around you uncomfortable.
Can you be strong enough in your desire to lose weight and get healthy to be different? Can you allow yourself not to care what anyone else thinks because you know what you are doing is serving you?
Can you go and enjoy the camaraderie without making it all about the eating and drinking?
Here’s a quick tip to get the attention off you and your new eating plan. Don’t tell people you are on a diet to lose weight. That immediately allows them to tell you how you are fine the way you are, yada,yada.
Instead tell them you went to the doctor and they put the fear of death in you. Your blood pressure is way up and you’re almost a full-blown diabetic. They insisted you go on this program before you have a heart attack.
What can your friends say to that? That’s okay, eat anyway. Lot’s of people now survive a heart attack??? Of course not. Now you have their support instead of their taunting.
Who knows…once they see how amazing you look, they might decide to join you!