I was at a Health Coach gathering last night. There were about 25 people on (or thinking about going on) our balanced eating program. We were all sharing our experience of how being on a path to health is transformational in so many areas of our life.
When you start to look and feel better, so many things in your life start to improve. While that is exciting, it can also bring with it it’s own set of challenges.
One of those challenges is how to navigate in our food-obsessed society.
Are most of your social situations centered around eating crappy food and drinking alcohol? My guess is…YES!!!
What do you do? Stop going out? Become a hermit? That is certainly one way to handle the situation if you don’t think you can go and not over-eat and drink. Let’s face it…that’s not sustainable in the long-run.
What is? Learning what is really going on in your group and making a decision about what (and who) you want in your life.
If you and your friends only spend time together eating and drinking and you start a program to lose weight and get healthy, you are changing the rules of the game. The others in the group are going to feel threatened. They will not want you losing weight and feeling better because it will highlight that they aren’t.
Their choice is either to follow you or make you “wrong”. Most of the time, they will choose to make you wrong. You will be ridiculed, told to stop that crazy fad diet, told you don’t need to lose weight, you look fine just like you are…
This is the point many of us give up. We don’t feel supported by our friends and we want to fit into our comfortable group again. We let them talk us into going back to the old way.
Take a look at that group of friends. Where will they be five, ten, fifteen years from now? Most likely they will be sick, on all kinds of medication, or worse. Is this what you really want for your own life. If so, that’s fine. It’s always your decision.
Or you can choose to find some new friends who are on a different path. A path leading towards health and vitality. Yes, we are out there and (believe it or not) we are a blast! We still have fun even if our fun isn’t centered around drinking margaritta’s and eating 2 backets of chips and dip.
Come to one of our events and mingle with other people who are on our balanced eating program. Join a gym. Join a Meetup doing something else you love to do that doesn’t involve eating and drinking. Start your own walking group. Get on our Facebook (Ourteamgoalgetters)group and get involved. If you don’t know how to find it or how to join, contact me and ask to be aded to our group.
If you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with…what does that say about who you are and where you are going?
* Jim Rohm is a top motivational speaker and self-help guru